On Monday 6/28/2010, a speaker by the name of Anthony Parran from St. Ambrose Housing came in to talk to all the ladies about trying to buy a house. He has been a mortgage conselor for 20 years. Anthony is the director of the 1st buyer program to help people try to buy houses. Anthony gives a free service every other Saturday once a month. The education is about buying a house and ways to clean your credit up so that you are able to buy a home. If you want to get more for your buck you can get grant money through special program online. There is a right and wrong way of buying a home, you don’t ever buy a house with your boyfriend because a house is a finacial marriage in itself. If you were to buy a house with a boyfriend and not a husband two to one you will be stuck with the bill in the end. He also told us to try to buy a house with the least amount of money in your pocket, find your resources and use them. This information is very imformative try to use it.
“A Message TO GO BY”
I think everyone can relate to this message.
BE CAREFUL OF YOUR THOUGHTS,
FOR YOUR THOUGHTS BECOME YOUR WORDS
BE CAREFUL OF YOUR WORDS,
FOR YOUR WORDS BECOME YOUR DEEDS;
BE CAREFUL OF YOUR DEES,
FOR YOUR DEEDS BECOME YOUR HABITS;
BE CAREFUL OF YOUR HABITS,
FOR YOUR HABITS BECOME YOUR CHARACTER;
BE CAREFUL OF YOUR CHARACTER,
FOR YOUR CHARACTER BECOMES YOUR DESTINY.
“BEING A PROFESSIONAL WOMAN” 6/21/2010
Today Monday June 21, 2010 a lady by the name of Adrienne Alberts came from Constellation Energy to speak to us about being the more professional woman. Ms. Alberts stated to us that we have 10 seconds to make a split decision about someone it might not be the right one but the first thing that comes to your mind. She grew up in Virginia. Ms. Alberts started working in higher education and was doing that for 10 yrs. Then she worked at Monster.com helping college kids work to find jobs. Here are a few things that needs to done while going on an interview:
- Show up early/ be on time
- Dress/ Good hygiene
- Hair needs to be groomed well
- Less is more not a lot of jewerly, perfume
- Attitude- positive/ smile
- Assertive and confident
- Avoid conflict
- Body Language
- Being congruent- having your body language match what you say
I really liked the speaker today, because I look at her as a mirror, meaning that’s where I see myself being once I finish this program. Ms. Alberts is a very successful African American woman and I congratulate her on her success and if she can do it I know I can do it.
“POSITIVE POWER”
On June 14, 2010 Ms. Yvonne Moten talked about Posistive Powerwhich was about how to handle conflict. Ms Yvonne talked about Non Assertive behavior which consists of , other deciding for you, don’t express fellings, ideas, wants and puts self down. She also spoke on having aggressive behavior which includes: is inappropriately honest, puts others down, ignores rights of others, dominates, chooses for others, attacks and blames, overracts to situtations, uses loaded and superior words, is sarcastic and loud, makes rigid demands and points the finger. Assertive Behavior includes: is appropriately honest, express wants and feelings directly, is empathetic, chooses for herself, is spontaneous, exercises her personal rights and respects rights of others, makes direct eye, has firm and warm voice, uses I statement takes responsibility for self.
Feelings of others when person engages in this behavior
- NON ASSERTIVE : Guilty, disrespectful, irritated, frustrated, superior
- AGGRESSIVE: Hurt, humiliated, defensive, vengeful, angry
- ASSERTIVE: Respectful and respected.
Just keep in mid the things you can control don’t let the aggressive side come out. Don’t play into the odds of aggressive people that expect you to fail.
“Because” by TD Jakes
Here’s another inspiring poem read it at your leisure.
Just because no one has been fortunate enough to realize what a gold mine you are, Doesn’t mean you shine any less.
Just because no one has been smart enough to figure out that you can’t be topped, Doesn’t stop you from being the best.
Just because no one has come along to share your life, Doesn’t men that day isn’t coming.
Just because no one has made this race worthwhile, Doesn’t give you permission to stop running.
Just because no one realized how much of an awesome woman you are, Doesn’t mean they affect your femininity.
Just because no one has shown up who can love you on your level, Doesn’t mean you have to sink to theirs.
Just because you deserve the very best there is, Doesn’t mean that life is always fair.
Just because GOD is still preparing your King, Doesn’t mean that lifyou’re not already a Queen.
Just because your situation doesn’t seem to be progressing right now, Doesn’t mean you need to change a thing.
Keep shining, keep running, Keep hoping, and keep praying, Keep being exactly what you are already. COMPLETE!!
To My sisters in the Lord 6/7/2010
I just wanted to share this poem that i got from my instructor Ms. Yvonne.
There comes a time in every woman’s life when she has to take a close look at herself. Not at her circumstances, not at what she did, not how unfair life is, or at who made you do it. She has to just look at herself in all her gloryand imperfection. Have you ever admired a woman who has been through changes in her life?Or have you made up in your mind that she is just messed up. Before you make this mistake take a closer look. A woman who has endured the most unusual life is someone of wisdom, someone who has been choosen by GOD to go through things that have made her stronger.
Think of all the great woman in the BIBLE : Mary Magdalene, Ruth and Naomi, the woman with an issue of blood, and Esther, to name a few. Mary was a prostitute, a very uneasy woman. But by the time Jesus was done with her, she was his closest follower. Esther was unfortunate in marrying an abusive man, but by the time GOD was done with her, she had married one of the wealthiest men in the land.
HAPPY MEMORIAL DAY
HAppy Memorial Day to everyone hope every one had a nice weekend. Despite the fact that we had alot of murders over the weekend. I just hope that The LORD keep us in his hands and guides us throuhout our journeys. Pray that he keeps the people family that have had a loss in his hands and guide them. Hopefully it will all get better. Sometimes people take forgrated their lives, but it will all change in due time, just keep the FAITH. LOVE THE WORLD, AND YOURSELF
“HALF WAY THRU PARTY” 5/28/2010
The Half Way thru celebration was great. I would like to thank all the staff and the support team that we have that’s giving us the motivation to still come to Caroline Center. We are half way through the training and it only get better from here. I just appreciate the fact that I was choosen out of 300 women. That I’m sure wanted the same oppurtunity that I have now. I really had good time. I also like that we could all come together and pitch with the food and the clean up. The food was great and the atmosphere was calm, hopefully we can do this again. THANK YOU CAROLINE CENTER…
Don’t be Afraid to let someone know 5/24/2010
Hello, on Monday May 24,2010. Ms. Kathleen Lavina from the Marion House came to Caroline Center to talk about Sexual Abuse and what signs to look for. Marion House is a Transitional House for homeless women located on Gorsch Ave in Baltimore Maryland. Ms. Kathleen explained to us that 85% of women who use drugs and alcohol cover it up due to sexual abuse. Some examples of child sexual abuse are showing children pornographic movies, telling them it’s Okay it’ll just happen one time. Just so you know 1 out of 3 girls will be sexually abuse before the age of 18yrs old, 1 out of 5 boys will be sexually abused. Please have healthy boundaries with your children. Alot of woman that have been sexually abused feel isolated and alone and have a sense of Hypervigilence. Try to give your children the tools they need to tell us when something is unappropiate. Be calm with your children, believe them and listen to them. Many people don’t know how to come out and tell when something is going on, so I just wanted to pass on this message. It’s very hard to confide in someone without them looking at you like you are lieing. So please find someone that you can tell immediately and maybe they can get help for you. DON’T BE SCARED.
